A Letter To My 14 Year Old Self


It’s okay that your friends are changing, a lot. Friends and people change all the time and just because you might have lost a few it doesn’t mean you’re not going to find so many new ones.

Don’t change who you are to make people like you. Don’t get all self conscious around new people. At the moment you’re really outgoing and funny and happy and you should stay like that. If people think you’re weird, so what. It’s easier to never start caring about what other people think than to try and get out of the habit of constantly caring.

Your appearance isn’t that important. It really isn’t. Your health comes first so stop forgetting that. Just because a lot of people you know are doing quite extreme things at the moment to be ‘skinny’, it doesn’t meant that you should too. You’re a healthy weight so stay there. Skipping meals isn’t going to help you lose weight in a healthy way, it’s just going to make you moody and sad all the time and guilty when you eat. You don’t need to do it.

Your grades aren’t the most important thing in the world. They matter, but they’re not the end of everything. Even though you think you’re doing awfully at school, you really aren’t. You’re actually going to end up going to a really great school for sixth form, and meet people there who you wouldn’t have met otherwise, so stop worrying.

You’re quite an okay person, so stop putting yourself down and thinking that you’re not. Stand up for yourself more, even if that means upsetting people. Stop holding onto everything and just being angry inside instead of doing something to change that. School seems so insignificant once you leave and so do a lot of the people there. You care so much about what everybody else thinks that it changes how you act, what you say, what you wear, who you talk to and it’s so stupid because their opinions don’t matter.

Nicole x