Basing Your Worth On Other People’s Opinions Of You


This is something I’m guilty of doing quite a lot. Basing my worth partly on other’s opinions of me. I’d love to be one of those people who’s really confident and doesn’t seem to care what other people think about them but unfortunately, no matter how much I try to lie to myself, at the moment I’m just not that person.

I had a job interview thing today, (not really an interview I suppose it was just a thing, anyway), and the main reason I hate job-interview-type situations is because you’re just inviting someone to judge you. And not only that, you’re going to find out exactly how well they perceived you as a person based on whether you’re offered a job or not.

The thing is, I don’t understand why the idea of someone judging me bothers me so much, and why it affects my own opinion of myself. I know that other people’s opinions don’t matter, but for some reason they still do matter to me. I don’t want anyone to dislike me or think bad of me. It doesn’t really make sense in the context of job interviews, because either they’ll like you and give you the job, or not like you and you’ll never have to see you again.

I know that this is probably just a human thing, and that lots of people think the same way. Most people don’t want someone to dislike them, even if it’s someone they’re never going to see again. I just don’t entirely understand why this is, and how some people learn not to care.

This post doesn’t really have a conclusion or anything, it’s just something I was thinking about as I invited someone to judge me in an interview situation haha.

Nicole x